Showing posts with label Connections. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Connections. Show all posts

Tuesday, December 18

Get Out of the Churchy Bubble


Last Friday, another mass school shooting rocked our world.  As the days have passed by, media and America has increased its cry for something to be done.  Neither political party seems to have an answer and no "expert" on guns, education, and psychiatry can manage an intelligible answer except for "we need to have more conversations."

Do Americans not realize that we are wasting time by talking about the need to have conversations on the tough issues when we could simply start having these conversations?  The need was there long before last week...why weren't we talking then?  And what about those who have been trying to talk all along but their message hasn't been heard?  A knee-jerk response will create ineffective legislation which will hurt, label and probably tax more than help.  But then prolonging the conversations will make our instant-gratification society bored and quickly forget what is important and why.  

In talking, we must not forget the conversations within our churches.  Why not consider looking at what Christians have allowed our churches to become?  What are we doing to help the mentally ill aside from raising our eyebrows at their vulnerability when they admit that they are taking meds and later gossiping about them (via the "prayer request" method) as if we have never struggled with seasons of anxiety, depression or loneliness ourselves?  What are we doing to reach out to today's young adults aside from saying, "Yes, we want you in church!" but then fail to reach out to them outside of their own programming or give support beyond the Sunday or Wednesday service?  What are we doing to be voices in our community when we can't even find our own voices in our own churches to stand up against compromise, cliques and comfortable faith?

We have created this bubble that exists within our churches.  Within this bubble, we are comfortable and safe.  And, whoa!  Shame on the person who dares to speak up against that bubble!  I learned that the hard way this week as I made a FB comment about the shooter and then quickly deleted it after being reprimanded. 

We are the ones who have graded ours (and everyone else's) sins.  We are the ones who created standards and then rationalized them when we couldn't keep them ourselves.  We are the ones who have taken over God's decision on who is worthy of God's love and who is not!  We've fooled ourselves into thinking that we aren't that bad but in reality, we are all mere choices away from committing a heinous crime.  The only difference is that we are choosing Christ.  We have chosen to experience His mercy, forgiveness and grace! 

While we saw lostness in the worst way last week, I can’t help but see that God’s love still overshadows everything!  Are we supposed to ignore the fact that this shooter and every other criminal is made in God's image just like us?  That if that criminal accepted Christ, then he would be in heaven next to us?  That thought is a little nauseating, honestly.  And then I have to stop and listen to myself as I judge this man and hold him to what I think God wants while totally ignoring my own sins in the process.  Is not envy or gossip or failing to rest in the same Ten Commandments list as murder and adultery?  Did not the same God who fashioned me with His hands fashion that murderer with His hands also?  Did not the same God who sent His son to die on the cross die for that man as well?  Doesn't the Bible mention that God is not a respecter of persons so that means God offers mercy, love, forgiveness and judgment to everyone equally?  And that all of this comes down to personal choice?

What missions/ministry opportunities have been lost because we failed to see and love others as God does?  Please know that in no way am I condoning what happened last week, but I can't help but see a broken, lost young man--a man that, who knows, might have made a completely opposite choice had the Body of Christ stepped in and ministered to his family from the beginning.  This family might have made different choices had a Believer taken time to simply hear the desperate cries of this mother who was at her wits end.  Or, they might have been led to resources and/or connections to Christian professionals who believed in the power of prayer and in the power of God to transform lives. 

I look around me and see broken people everywhere...no one is exempt from brokenness.  How many times do I pretend not to see brokenness because I don't know what to say or do?  How many times have we wished that someone (even someone from our own churches) would step outside of Facebook and/or the Sunday services and be a real face, a real ear, a real hug or a real voice?  What if that was the one chance that would change the course of everything in that person’s life?  What if that was the one chance that could have prevented last week's deaths from happening?

After last week, we have got to pop that safe Christian bubble that we're in!  We have to go against the grain, have courage to leave our church cliques and man-made ideals behind and look at life through God’s eyes!  We also have to nurse the broken in our churches so we can nurse the broken outside of our churches. 

Yes, it’s uncomfortable, it's messy and it's real.  When we get beyond ourselves and see the heart of God yet fail to act, our lives become equally uncomfortable, messy and real as we make a blatant choice to ignore God and reap the consequences of it (been there, done that and it's not fun)! 

I keep sensing this urgency that we are missing the mark as the church and it's time to stop playing around, time to stop sitting in our comfy churchy bubbles and truly live out what the Bible says.  For those who already are, hope is around the corner and we have to stay the course and know Who we are looking at regardless of who is (or isn’t) walking alongside us!  It's tough and it's lonely sometimes, but keep hanging on!  

Tuesday, October 9

The Honest Homeschooler

Thank you, Heather, for giving me the opportunity to share some insights from our first year of homeschooling!  You can read my guest blog post as well as many others from Heather as she shares about life as an author, wife, mother and homeschool teacher at Heather's blog

Monday, June 18

It’s Not All About Connections


One of the most conflicting areas of ministry for me has been the importance of networking.  It’s something that is helpful as you build a list of contacts for info, a sounding board, project partners, prayer, support and basic ministry resources.  And, it’s great for seeing new perspectives and seeing what is going on beyond your world.  There are many benefits to networking but I've come to the conclusion that networking for ministry and networking for business are two different things.

Over the past year, I’ve been introduced to many men and women in all types of church/ministry leadership positions.  It’s intimidating at times as I realize how little I know in light of their expertise and wisdom.  Yet it’s eye-opening as I realize how much it’s still about who you know in church life. 

I’ve always believed that when God has a plan in mind for you, He will make it happen.  He will put the right people in your path, orchestrate the right circumstances and He will guide you where He wants you.  It’s not something you have to stress over and force because God has already done the work for you (I Corinthians 14:33).

Lately, there have been some really awkward and embarrassing situations where I’ve met people because they were recommended to me as a potential resource and/or connection.  Honestly, I don’t know why I’m meeting them except that they were referred to me as good people to meet (and they really are good people to meet).  Yet in these awkward encounters, it feels so forced, it’s not “me” nor is it the first impression I want them to have of me and more importantly of God and of myMISSION.  In the middle of situations like these, I’m left questioning what in the world I’m doing and where is the leader within me as my insecurities take over. 

During a recent introduction and awkward five minute conversation that followed, it hit me that this is not where I need to be.  God has entrusted young women in my care to love and to serve.  It’s about them, not about who I know or need to know or who could help me grow.  God has already taken care of that!  And for the past 14 months, in His time (not mine), God placed key people in my life and opened doors that I didn’t have to force open.

Ministry isn’t about who you know, it’s about WHO you know (God).  And when God does the networking for you, it’s unmistakable by all and you just know that introduction was a God-thing and God-results flow from it.  Don't force it...God will make the connections happen in His time!