It Depends on the Fire (#FMF)

Tonight is one of those nights where I feel like writing but I don't know what to write. Well, technically, there are many things to write yet they all seem too personal for a blog. For the past three weekends, I've sat at my laptop trying to come up with something for the FMF word and my mind keeps drawing blank. I can think of all the things that I'm "supposed" to say especially when I think of all the ways that the FMF word will be used by the many FMF bloggers in various spiritual contexts. Then, I think of my readers and wonder what is that one thing I can share with them that will encourage and challenge and my mind draws blank because the things I want to say don't come in a nice, neat package. The things from my heart that challenge others come from walking through the fire, getting burned, being nursed back to health only to be burned again, yet not as severe this time, and then being nursed back to health again. There is something that happens when we walk through the fire one too many times. If we don't resent the fire, we sometimes realize that the fire isn't all bad. It depends on the purpose of the fire and it depends on how we want to view it.

Sometimes when we walk through the fire, the heat of the fire burns off the old, dead, rotten places that no longer serve us. These are the places we cling to tightly because it's all we've ever known. We will never let go of these things on our own and the fire either forces us to let go or it teaches us how to let go. Either way, once that place has been scorched, we know it will never be the same again.

But sometimes when we walk through the fire, the heat of the fire prepares us for something yet to be discovered. I keep coming back to a glassblower's molten blob of glass on the end of his blow tube. The firey red hot blob glows and burns with extreme heat but it becomes extremely malleable. By the time the glassblower is done and the glass begins to cool, beauty emerges in shapes and forms that vary from one another--sometimes very distinctly and other times, ever so slightly. Each piece of glass work was hand-crafted by a master who had a plan and a vision to make something out of a firey blob.

When we get burned, there is also a process of healing that must happen. Each time we heal, we learn something about ourselves in the process. For some of us, healing comes when we learn to accept help. For others, healing comes when we can receive grace. Some learn that rest is required for healing while others learn that time is a great healer. It depends on the purpose of the fire as to what kind of healing will happen. What many fail to mention is that healing is sometimes as painful as the fire. But if we endure and embrace the process rather than resist it, we come out on the other side a different person because we have experienced healing for ourselves.

If we end up having to walk through the same kind of fire again, we are more confident that we will get through it. The healing that we previously experienced makes the fire a little more bearable because we know that even though the fire may be bad, it won't last forever. The fire eventually dies out removing the old, dead, rotten places, thereby leaving behind a new place where life and health can begin to grow.

"But now, this is what the Lord says—he who created you, Jacob, he who formed you, Israel: “Do not fear, for I have redeemed you; I have summoned you by name; you are mine. When you pass through the waters, I will be with you; and when you pass through the rivers, they will not sweep over you. When you walk through the fire, you will not be burned; the flames will not set you ablaze." Isaiah 43:1-2

Five Minute Friday (#FMFparty) gives writers a word prompt. We are encouraged to write whatever comes to mind about that word in just five minutes (although, I usually go longer bcs FMF helps fuel that spark in me to write).  No editing, no perfection, only writing from the heart.  To find out more, visit http://fiveminutefriday.com/.  This week's word is "DEPEND".

Neighbors In the Wilderness (#FMF)

Have you ever faced a wilderness season in your life? You know, the time when you feel all alone, wandering aimlessly trying to get somewhere but you’re not exactly sure where you are at or how far you have left to wander before you’re “there” (if you’re one of the lucky few to know where “there” really is)? We are not in familiar situations that we assumed we’d always be in nor are we fully comfortable with the new situations we find ourselves in. Some days, we blaze new trails while other days, we find ourselves trying to retrace old steps back to that comfort and security that we once took for granted. Along the way, we discover we are no longer who we once were but we are no longer who we want to be, and we realize that we’re not even sure that who we wanted to be is what we really will be when this journey through the wilderness is over. Sometimes I want to rush the journey and move on with these lessons and move on to the next chapter of my life. And other times, I want to pitch and tent and either have a pity party or simply rest and regroup because walking through the wilderness is depleting and exhausting.

The wilderness journey is intensely personal and only a journey we can make on our own. It gets pretty lonely at times because it seems like everyone else has already made it through to the other side or they know where they are going and are running full speed ahead leaving us choking on their dust and wondering how come they are able to move so quickly and we can barely find the strength to take the next step. But what if in the wandering and trying to keep up with others, we’re missing strategically and Divinely placed neighbors surrounding us who are ready to refresh, equip, and share with us what we need to stay on the journey one more day? And what if in the midst of our own wilderness, we are to be that kind of neighbor to someone else?

Wilderness and neighbors seem contradictory, but a neighbor can simply be defined as “a fellow man” (Merriam Webster). So in the wilderness context, where do we find a neighbor when there seems to be no one around us and the journey seems long and arduous? A neighbor is found in the person who comes alongside us even if it’s for a few minutes, a few weeks, or a few months. We can either acknowledge our neighbor or we can push them away fully missing out on how neighbors are able to assist each other, even momentarily, with whatever journey they are on. Ephesians 4:25 says, “What this adds up to, then, is this: no more lies, no more pretense. Tell your neighbor the truth. In Christ’s body we’re all connected to each other after all.”  

Are we too occupied with ourselves and what we do or don’t have, where we wish we were but aren’t, or who we want to be but fail to be that we’ve forgotten how connected we all are—that our neighbors need us as much as we need them? That we can encourage one another instead of compete with each other? That we can borrow strength from each other instead of walk all over each other? That we can learn from each other instead of try to discredit each other? That we can speak truth to each other rather than hide how much we are struggling through the wilderness? That we can let that truth deepen instead of hinder relationships as we walk through the wilderness?

As I walk through wilderness seasons, it is my neighbors that God uses mightily in my life. These neighbors speak God’s truth to me when I am weary of fighting. They pray when it feels like I have no more words left to pray. And they are simply just there...in some ways, they make God’s love tangible and remind me just how much we truly are NOT alone in the wilderness. It’s when I let go of the pretense and speak my truth and receive their truth which is centered around God’s truth that the wilderness becomes more sustainable. I am thankful that wilderness journey doesn’t have to be a solo journey, and I’m thankful for all the neighbors that God places in my path during the wilderness seasons!

Five Minute Friday (#FMFparty) gives writers a word prompt. We are encouraged to write whatever comes to mind about that word in just five minutes (although, I usually go longer bcs FMF helps fuel that spark in me to write).  No editing, no perfection, only writing from the heart.  To find out more, visit http://fiveminutefriday.com/.  This week's word is "NEIGHBOR".